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What’s Behind those Weird Dreams?

What’s Behind those Weird Dreams?

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I want to preempt this blog post by disclosing that I am as ‘unspiritual’ as they get. When I’m stressed, it’s not because there’s a full moon, it’s because I’ve procrastinated and not left myself enough time to do something. When I get in an argument with my boyfriend, it’s not because he’s a Scorpio and I’m a Taurus, it’s because he’s clearly wrong about something! Because of my unwavering cynicism, I have been reluctant to credit dreams with having any kind of symbolic meaning, but I have to admit that I might be wrong about this one. I was at a museum exhibition on the science behind the human mind a couple of years ago, and it had a whole section dedicated to the psychology behind dreams and sleep. I was surprised to find that I had had all but one of what they deemed the most common dreams. I had thought that my recurring dream (nightmare) about my teeth falling out was just residual paranoia from having braces as a teenager, but as it turns out, this is one of the most frequently reported dreams and has been linked to vanity, anxiety, and (according to Freud), a fear of castration. You might be as surprised as I was to find that what you believed where your private and unique thoughts are actually shared with millions of other people. So what are these dreams, and what could they mean? 1.  Being Chased In evolutionary terms, flee/flight is one of our most primal responses to threat. It makes sense then, that dreams about being chased have been tied to feeling threatened by someone or something in waking life. This dream has also been linked to avoiding some kind of confrontation or obligation in real life. 2.  Being Naked in Public Dreams about being totally undressed, partially undressed, or dressed inappropriately for an occasion are all tied to feeling some kind of vulnerability. When you are without your clothes, you are without a symbolic barrier that you can hide behind. This can be attributed to feeling helpless or exposed in a real life situation that you don’t feel fully prepared for or qualified to deal with. Obviously, these dreams are correlated with anxiety, but it is worth noting that a lot of the time, no one seems to notice your nudity. This is likely indicative of the fact that your anxieties are merely your own projections: no one else thinks you’re unprepared or unqualified! 3.  Falling/Sinking Dreams of falling or sinking are often attributed to losing control, or lacking security, stability, or confidence. These dreams often occur when you’re feeling insecure or lacking support in your waking life. 4.  Flying Most people who have flying dreams associate them with feelings of euphoria. If you’re flying with ease in your dream, it could mean you’re feeling on top of a situation....

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Stress: It’s a Matter of the Heart

Stress: It’s a Matter of the Heart

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You might be surprised to learn that heart disease is the number one killer of women in North America. Part of this can probably be attributed to the fact that it’s hard to know when our hearts aren’t healthy because we cannot see them. When we’ve gained too much weight we see it in our thighs. We are reminded to check our breasts by the fact that we see them every day. But our hearts? Often we forget to take proper care of them because they’re out of sight and out of mind. Given the dangers of heart disease, women have to get a handle on what can cause it, and how to help keep these causes at bay. Heart disease is caused by a number of factors, many of which we cannot control. One of these factors is the accumulation of stress that comes with everyday life. While we can’t necessarily control all the stressors in our lives (financial problems, horrible bosses, teenagers), we do have a certain amount of control over how we let them affect us and by extension, our heart health.  Learning to manage stress is key if you’re wondering how to prevent heart disease in women. We are all affected by stress in different ways, and we all cope differently with stress. What works for you might not work for your best friend; I think yoga is probably the most boring thing in the world, but many of my friends have had it change their lives. I put together a list of tips that have been known to help people manage their stress. Using some of these techniques can help you control how much you’re affected by the stress in your life and could help keep your heart healthy (and sanity in check)! Don’t Overindulge in Food and Alcohol: Don’t deal with stress by turning to food and alcohol. Over eating, under eating, and excessive alcohol consumption only band-aid the bigger problem. Coping by using food and alcohol will only lead to additional issues on top of the primary stressor. Say No: Many women take on more than they can handle. Even women who work the same hours as their husbands have been shown to contribute more than 70% to the household duties. Adding kids’ schedules into the mix, as well as the expectations of friends and extended family can lead anyone to a nervous breakdown. Go through your commitments to distinguish between the ‘shoulds’ and the ‘musts.’ Cut down what’s on your plate so you can deal with your obligations properly without going insane. Stop Smoking: Beyond the obvious impacts lighting up has on your health, the nicotine in cigarettes works as a stimulant that directly induces symptoms of stress. Exercise Regularly: Regular exercise has direct links to maintaining a healthy heart, but it is the endorphins it releases that combat stress. They...

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Let’s Talk About Sex (Drives)!

Let’s Talk About Sex (Drives)!

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Remember being 17 and sharing everything with your girlfriends? First kisses, bad dates, fights with your boyfriend? Chances are, you talked about everything- even those things that boyfriend wouldn’t be too pleased to hear you sharing. Then you finished school, and you began dating people more seriously. For every guy you went out with, there was a subsequent conversation with that same best friend, or maybe a new one, about the date, his appearance and personality, what was wrong with him, and how far this relationship was going to go. When you got married, she helped you pick your dress, and probably your lingerie as well. And if you’re like most women, that is when things started to change. Conversation about sex and sexuality started to dwindle, and was replaced by the other things that were prevalent in your life. You can attribute this change to a million different things, from your focus on balancing your kids and career to the increased conservatism that comes with age. Obviously your responsibilities and interests change as you go through life, and accordingly, so do the topics of conversation that interest you. But removing sex from the medley of topics that you are comfortable discussing can inadvertently lead to feelings of alienation if you ever develop a problem in this facet of your life. Recent medical studies indicate that up to 1/3 of young to middle-aged women, and up to ½ of older women experience issues relating to their libido. The numbers alone demonstrate how pervasive these issues are, but still it’s something we rarely discuss. Most women don’t talk about low female libido with their friends, and the few that do discuss it with their doctor only breach the surface of the issue. That so many of us choose to deal with this alone could be attributed to a socially-distorted sense of decency. We wouldn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable by discussing something so personal and so ‘crass.’ But the fact that we don’t talk about it is perpetuating the feelings of worry, guilt, shame, and isolation that a woman faces when she is dealing with a low-libido. These feelings can be tied directly to her conception that there is ‘something wrong with her.’ Contrary to this belief, low-libido is a prevalent issue for more than a significant number of women, and these negative feelings are a product of the stigma that surrounds a woman’s ‘abnormal’ sex drive. Talking about issues relating to our sex drives creates a network of support and is instrumental in getting rid of this unhealthy and unfair repression. What is a normal female sex drive? According to Kelli Young, an occupational therapist, sex therapist, and group psychotherapist “There really is no such thing as “normal” female sex drive. Women vary greatly in their desire for sex. What is important is a woman’s own subjective experience of the...

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Excited but not “Excited”: Enhancing Sexual Desire in Time for Valentine’s Day

Excited but not “Excited”: Enhancing Sexual Desire in Time for Valentine’s Day

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Welcome February. Characterized by its long, grey days and accompanying cold winds, February doesn’t really leave us with a whole lot to get excited about. It is arguably the most insufferable month to endure, until you remember that smack in the middle of it is Valentine’s Day: the auspicious occasion that allows you to guiltlessly leave the kids at home and your work at the office, and celebrate your relationship.  (I don’t care if it was popularized by Hallmark to sell greeting cards; if it gives me an excuse to eat unlimited chocolate then I’m into it)! So you’ve booked a babysitter, made the reservations, and have finally dropped those holiday pounds in order to fit back into your sexiest dress (or you haven’t…but you look great all the same). You should be excited, but if you’re one of the 18 million women in North America who suffers from low female libido, you’re probably more anxious than anything else. Valentine’s Day is by nature a day to celebrate relationships, and by extension is just as inherently a day to celebrate sex. If you’re not interested in this integral part of the holiday, then quite frankly, Valentine’s Day sucks. There are dozens of reasons why women lose their sex drive, which include but are not limited to: Perimenopause Menopause Stress Anxiety Loss of confidence Lack of physical exercise Insomnia/fatigue Environmental toxins (smoking, pollution) Depression (and antidepressants) Prescription drugs Relationship issues Most women who are suffering from low libido are not apathetic. They want to want sex, but they just don’t. Whether this lack of interest in sex is due to psychological, environmental, or physiological factors does not change its repercussions. Low libido can affect a women’s body image, mood, and self-confidence, and can leave us with feelings of disappointment, frustration, and inadequacy. Needless to say, no woman should ever have to struggle with these feelings, and it was with this in mind that femMED created femMED Libido. There are over 25 FDA-approved treatments for men suffering from issues related to their sex drive, but there is currently very little on the market for women. Obviously medications like Viagra have been extremely successful in revitalizing many men’s sex lives, but most women aren’t looking for an equivalent. While a magic “Viagra for women” pill that you can ingest an hour before sex is an attractive quick-fix, what is more appealing is targeting the core issues affiliated with low libido and implementing a natural solution to improve sex drive. Women experiencing low-libido are often less easily aroused, less sensitive to touching and stroking, prone to vaginal dryness and psychological discomfort, lack pelvic blood flow, and have difficulty achieving orgasm. The ingredients in femMED Libido work together as sex-drive enhancers and are successful in maintaining and increasing sexual desire, enhancing sexual satisfaction, and enhancing sexual response, thus combatting and often fully alleviating these...

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